By Tiffany Colter
We are almost done with the first month of 2013. Are you doing anything differently than you did a month ago in 2012? I certainly am, unfortunately, not all of it has been good. Sometimes I find it hard to get motivated. Some days I’m overwhelmed with all I have to do. Some days I have a single distraction that throws everything off course.
Today, I had an amazing thing happen. I saw my name listed as one of the Continuing Track Faculty at Write to Publish Writer’s conference. I’ve known since August that I’d be teaching a continuing track, but it was still exciting to think about working with a new group of writers and helping them have a better life and business.
2012 was an intense year. We had some amazing answers to prayer and some pretty sizable frustrations. So far, 2013 has started much the same way. As I was working today, I started to think about this. I know that it is my attitude more than any other thing that will determine my success or failure. That was when I saw an email in my inbox. In it a coach that I listen to reminded me of something Robert Kiyosaki said, “We need to shift from I can’t to How Can I.”
That is easy when there is a major struggle, at least for me. When there are impossible odds to overcome, I do it! For me, it is the little distractions every day that knock me off course and cause all the problems. It is the email from a friend that I reply to when I should be writing. It is the edit that takes longer than I expected. It is the daughter who needs help with her math. All of these things pile up and I find myself screaming, “I can’t do this.”
I’m sure you can relate to this feeling, if not these exact circumstances. So, how is it that I can be an involved mom who helps her daughters, responds quickly to her clients, completes a rough draft every 6-8 weeks and all the other things I must do? Well, that is the question.
I can either decide to cut things, decide to reorganize things, or find a way to get things done. So, you decided to make changes in 2013? If you decided to lose weight, how did you decide to adjust your schedule to allow exercising? If you decided to work on relationships, what are you doing differently to build them up?
My point is you cannot simply say you’re going to do something and then it becomes so. You must make changes to make it so. The most crucial of these changes is to change your attitude. Everything that is now possible was first impossible. People like to point to great things like flight, going to the moon, surgeries and other amazing feats. While these were once thought impossible there are other, smaller things. Before I was a mom I couldn’t imagine what it would be like to have a child rely on me around the clock. When I was a teen I couldn’t fathom working every day. When I was first starting out, the idea of writing a full 50,000 words for my first manuscript filled me with terror. According to my word count, my blogs for Writing Career Coach since September have totaled almost 14,000 words and last month I wrote 18,000 of my book in spite of the Christmas holiday and 13 days of the flu during that time. In the last week I’ve written another 5,000 words on my next book. That is a total of 37,000 words right there. Writing that many words is now possible, and routine, for me because I shifted my thoughts from, “I can’t” to “How can I”?
What is the current, “I can’t” in your life? Might I suggest one of my CDs where I taught on overcoming this to reach your goals? I taught it in June 2011 to a business networking group at Concordia University in Ann Arbor, MI. You can download it instantly for only $7 here.
Let’s talk about this. Go to my Facebook page for Writing Career Coach and share how you’ve done what you thought was impossible. I’d love to have you join the conversation.
Your Coach for the Journey, Tiffany Colter, The Writing Career Coach
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